Get inside bailey's head
Warning: It can be scary and full of profanity in there!
I used to hate getting to failure at the gym. It felt icky and unsuccessful. I would always come up JUST shy of failing. Because WHY on Earth would anyone ever want to push themselves so far that they just ended their gym session with a shitty failed attempt?
Over the past 9 months I have learned why...
I realized that if I never push myself to the point where I miss a lift or an attempt then I will NEVER find out my boundaries. I will never find out where the limit actually sits.
Now, I like to push myself until failure, then I KNOW what my current boundaries are. I know that my current failure is my next goal to reach. And once I have crushed that goal I move onto my next failure.
Check out my latest failure HERE
I never have been. And for many years I was closed off to the idea of any kind of religion or spirituality, because I was sure that the two were one in the same.
So when someone asked me to "look to god for the answer" or to "thank the lord" for what I was given, I had a reaaaalllly hard time with that.
A few years ago I read a book called You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero that said "call it whatever you want, god, the spirits, the universe.... consider it all as a higher power" (that's not an exact quote but you get the idea).
It got me thinking.... my mom always said to me "things happen for a reason" and those words forever stuck with me. So I thought okay maybe I do believe in something...I think I believe in the universe as a higher power.
Recently, with the help of my new friend Misti, I was able to separate the two terms; religious and spiritual. Sounds like an easy task but when you have told yourself one thing for so long it can be difficult to change.
I now do consider myself somewhat spiritual in the fact that I do believe that the universe has been an assistant in the growth over the years.
Tonight I felt a strong need to give thanks to the universe for the opportunities that it has assisted in providing for me.
I have been 100% open to any opportunity that may fall into my lap and extremely grateful when they do.
So I sat outside, in silence and looked around at "the universe". I literally said out loud "thank you for assisting me with all of these amazing opportunities that I have been given"
(Don't worry the neighbours know that I talk back to the voices in my head - it's all good)
And as I sat there, completely at peace, I also gave thanks to myself. That's right, myself. Because the universe may have assisted me with these opportunities but it was ultimately ME that made the choice to be open to receiving them. I take full responsibility for my life, the good, the bad and the ugly.
Take responsibility for the good in your life, you had a part in that too.
Of course I turned music on immediately after (you know music is my thaaang) and it was the song "I'm alive" by Kenny Chesney.
I will leave you with the lyrics to a part of the song that almost brought me to tears, tears of excitement and joy...
"Today's the first day of the rest of my life and I'm alive and well"
Someone asked me what I do...it was like word vomit!
Do you ever get that feeling that you have lost yourself somewhere along your life journey? Wish you could rediscover that person who has been missing for far too long? I am a personal development coach that helps my clients find more purpose in their life. We work through things like confidence, body image and self esteem. We also work together to discover their goals and create an action plan of how they can achieve them and live a life that they truly love.
And that is the first part of what I do.... lol
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Radiant Health Institute- I don't even know where to start with Radiant Health Institute, there is SO MUCH GREATNESS under one company. Next week I am going to travel to Nashville to become a certified holistic coach with the Radiant Coaches Academy. In the new year, I will be one of the trainers in our company that travels to different locations to train and provide retreats. EXCITING RIGHT?!
That's pretty much it... OH and I do still do some household budget coaching as well!
AND I parent.
AND I train at the gym 4x per week
AND I kickbox 1x per week
And that's it. I think.
Recently, I found myself in place that used to be OH SO familiar to me... I found myself sitting on my bathroom floor, knees up, UGLY CRYING. You know what the ugly cry looks like right? It's like snot everywhere, red faced, blotchy eyes... We've all been there a time or two.
Well, I have been going through some pretty big shifts and changes in my life and business. These changes haven't necessarily been bad changes, but just changes that I needed to adjust for, and by the sounds of things my brain was SO NOT on board for these changes (yet)!
So, as I sat on the floor, ready to throw in the towel, I had a realization...this is her, this is P.B.. P.B. is a girl who used to let her weak side win and let her convince herself that she wasn't good enough or worthy enough. She would say that there were too many risks to take a chance on something and that change is too scary.
P.B. is Past Bailey.
As I sat there, thinking about how, in that very moment, I could make the decision to let P.B. win and bring back my old 'poor me, somebody save me' ways where I would go back to hating 80% of my days OR I could silence that bitch, stand up, (finish the ugly cry, because that is important to let that shit out) and GET BACK TO LIVING.
If I decide that I am going to let a few challenging moments defeat me, then I am going to miss out on a whole lot of opportunities to make the positive impact that I have set out to make in this lifetime.
It's a shitty day, not a shitty life.
I AM HUMAN.
Becoming a better human challenge...
Not a lot of people know this about me but once every few weeks I give myself a challenge. These challenges that I do with myself are always based around having better communication, becoming a better version of myself, being a better human in our society...always something to make my life fuller and often the lives of others too.
What I am working on right now is being a better customer when it comes to customer service. Whether I am at a restaurant, in a retail store or at the gas station I am REALLY striving to be a better customer.
I have worked in retail and been on the other side of the counter, so I KNOW what it is like to be treated like I have no soul.
What I am encouraging you to do is become a better customer yourself. Here are a few tips that I have been using to be a good customer...
This is my challenge for you! Do you accept it?
How is it that I can get a loan without ever stepping foot into a bank, but as soon as I want to pay that fucker off there are ALL sorts of rules and regulations.
When I called to pay off a loan on our holiday trailer, that we regretfully had taken years ago when we were dumb, debt-ridden kids, it was a HUGE ordeal. We were asked numerous questions over the phone, questions such as:
"What month and year did you get the loan?"
"What is the exact amount the loan was for?"
"What is the original mailing address on the account?"
Okay, so first of all we got the loan 8 years ago, how the fuck and I suppose to remember ANY of these answers? I was a dumb, debt-ridden kid, remember?
Anyways, when we were unsuccessful in answering enough of these questions correctly. The woman on the other end of the phone said "I'm sorry but I cannot do anything else for you until you have the answers to these questions. You are going to have to go into a branch in person."
Okay, thanks lady. And if someone else ever calls in to pay off my loan, please just let them. *facepalm*
We live HOURS from the nearest branch, so that was not happening and I wanted to get this stupid loan paid out before I had to endure ANOTHER day of interest! So I did what any relentless person would do, I called back the helpline in hopes of a new agent.
This agent was much more helpful but in the end was STILL unable to tell us exactly how much was still owing and was also unable to help us pay off the loan.
"I'm sorry, but you will have to go into your nearest branch to pay off this loan"
Turns out it is WAAAAY easier to get a loan than it is to pay one off.
Thank goodness we are no longer dumb, debt-ridden kids!
Several years ago, I received a complimentary coaching call at a conference that I attended. I didn’t know much about life coaching but thought, hey, what they hell, I’ll give it a shot. The deal was a 15 minute ‘clarity call’ phone conversation. For some reason, I was terrified to actually talk to her. I don’t know if it was my lack of knowledge of the industry, or maybe I just didn’t want her to tell me something that would make me face myself. Whatever it was, I put off the conversation for an entire MONTH.
Finally, she caught up with me and I had no excuses left as to why I couldn’t chat with her.
I remember the exact moment when she called and the conversation we had. It didn’t last for more than 15 minutes, but the impact she had on me was outstanding! She helped me understand what I was searching for in my life and guided me to start achieving it…all from one FREE phone call.
As the month’s past after our conversation, I worked hard to turn my dreams into realities taking programs and courses, reading, and finally starting my own business.
There were many other coaches and teachers after her that guided me along to get my business up and running, but I will never forget the conversation that we shared together. That very first moment that I realized, I can do this.
I never told her what an impact she had on me…until a few months ago, when I sent her this:
“I need you to know something. The quick phone conversation that we had many years ago made some of the most important impact in my life to date.
I REALLY appreciate that conversation that we had and will never forget the moment of you saying to me "if that's what you want to do, why haven't you done it".
My life has changed and grown so much. Thank you for changing my perspective.”
She was over the moon excited to receive this message from me and asked what I had been up to. I started typing and just couldn’t stop. It kept flowing from my fingers because there is just so much that has happened since I had spoken to her.
When I saw it all out there, I flooded with happiness to see all of my achievements. I knew that I had accomplished lots of goals but to see them listed…that was amazing.
Too often people feel like they cannot share their big wins in life because we were raised to be humble and not to brag. BUT I believe that we NEED to brag our accomplishments in life once in a while, even if its just to ourselves.
I encourage you to make a list of all of your accomplishments in the past year and share it with ‘your posse’ (the people in your circle, or your support system). Let them help you celebrate!
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